"Let Your Life Speak" part 3

             This is the third in the series—“Let Your Life Speak.” It always inspires me to read the reflections and stories of our interns. I am reminded of the hard work, the collegiality, the friendships, the side-splitting laughter resulting from stories at camp, and the bonds of love that form over the summer. This reflection is from Elizabeth Brown. Elizabeth interned in 2010 and as the Lead Intern in 2011. She also organized our afternoon enrichment for the Peace Education week. These activities were fun and effective; so effective that one of the principals called me at home to share a story about change in behavior in one of our kids. This is the story titled “Planting Seeds in Fertile Ground” in the 2010 blog posts.

I have truly been enriched by working with Elizabeth. And, there is no question that the lives of many children have been touched by her. I think you will see what I mean when you read her reflection.

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As I sit here listening to a travel CD made for me by a friend for my long travel home, I came across a song called “This is Love” by The Script. After I had time to sit down and stop what I was doing because the song fondly reminded me of Good Neighbors, I quickly remembered that I had failed to reflect on my experiences and time spent with the Good Neighbor’s program. And now, finally, I have found a spare moment to write down my thoughts. 

The first line in the song is “It’s in the eyes of the children, as they leave for the very first time” and the song continues to repeat, “this is why we do it, this is worth the pain, this is where the heart lies, this is love, love is this”. I thought this just about summed up the entire Good Neighbor’s experience. It made me think of the requirements for an intern to become part of the Good Neighbor’s family. I thought if someone really wants to be a part of the program, they must be willing to endure the “pain” and hard work that comes with the ups and downs of Good Neighbors. They have to be really passionate about helping others and dedicating their time to enrich the lives of each other as well as the children and families the program serves. And they must understand that the whole underlying message of Good Neighbors is love. Showing compassion to the community and to the children says that someone loves and cares about them enough to invest great amounts of time, money and energy into the improvement of their education, health and spirit. 

            People involved with GN, regardless of their role in the program, understand why we put in so much effort and work into sustaining this program. I use the word “we” loosely because the number of people who get the recognition for “running the program” is just the tip of the iceberg. There is a huge foundation of community members that is supporting the program, and it is because of the steadfast support and encouragement that the program thrives. 

            Of course even with all the support of the loving community members, there would be no program without Russell Baskett; a friendly Quaker who has a kind spirit, a loving and accepting heart and the patience of a saint. Even though he has these honorable characteristics, Russ can also be the stubborn and steadfast leader that is needed for a program like Good Neighbors to function as well as it has over the past few years. He has been a hero and an inspiration to many and impacted countless lives. But he is humble to the point where he tries to give credit to others for the hard work he has personally put into this program. Russell has been a great advocate, friend and mentor to all the children Good Neighbors has served. He has also done the same mentoring, befriending and advocating for the interns who have worked with him over the years. (Russ- you better not delete this part before you share it with others!)    

            For the last two summers I have been privileged enough to serve as an intern and as the lead intern in2011 for the Good Neighbor’s program.  Working with such a fantastic program with wonderful leadership has been a blessing in itself by teaching me valuable life lessons. Working with my fellow interns has also been quite an enjoyable experience. Over the last few years I have made friendships that are lasting. You learn a whole lot about yourself when living, working and playing with five to seven other people 24/7. But, it also creates a bond between the interns that is indescribable—at times we want to wring each other’s necks, but we still love each other and learn to get along. 

            Then, there are the kids. Oh, the Good Neighbors rascals. They are the true spirit of good neighbors and are the reason the interns get up at the crack of dawn each day, all summer. The kids can drive you crazy, make you laugh, do things that surprise and scare you, all at the same time. But, at the end of the day it’s the love and compassion we show them that counts. Seeing the kids succeed, learn new things, and have a good time makes all the hard, preparation work worthwhile. In my experience it has been the funny stories and experiences with the children that have been the stories told months and even years after. This is not to say that all of the children make lasting positive impressions. In fact I think that most interns would agree with me that most of the children have their positive and negative attributes, and it is usually the negative attributes that cause us stress at the time that make for the best stories. But whether a child was caring, calm, disruptive, kind, angry or off-the-walls, we appreciate every one of them and the kids give the interns an experience that is just as, if not more, valuable to their lives. 

             I have enjoyed every second of my work with SML Good Neighbors and am a true believer in what this program can do for the children in the Bedford and Franklin counties and beyond. There are many people who make this camp program possible and I want to thank them from the bottom of my heart for offering me this opportunity that has been a life changing experience. Good Neighbors will always have a special place in my heart, and I will forever be an advocate for the children the program serves and works with.

            The song by The Script reads, “This is where the heart lies, this is from above, love is this, this is love.”  And SML Good Neighbors will be where the heart lies for many, and will always be a place where love is abundant.

  

                                           

                                           

"Let Your Life Speak" part 2

    I ended my last post saying that I would share the thoughts and reflections of some of our interns. The Good Neighbors interns model—Let Your Life Speak. And, in their writings I hear how their lives are impacted by the children they serve. Anyone listening to the kids quickly learns how deeply their lives are touched by the interns. So, all of us can—Let Our Lives Speak—our interns show us how to…

    This 2010 reflection by Angela Massino reminds me of the truly important things—things to be thankful for during this 2011 Thanksgiving season.

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y second summer interning at the SML Good Neighbors day camp is quickly coming to  a close. I was conflicted over my decision to return. I thought, maybe I should try something new, like interning in D.C. with a news station or applying for an outdoor facilitator job. However, the more I shared stories about the kids from Franklin and Bedford counties the more I realized how emotionally attached I am to this special program, which feeds both children’s minds and bodies.

    Every day I am nearly knocked over by a surprise hug from behind, and then reach around behind me, feeling for a head of hair to help me determine whose little arms could be wrapped around my waist. This summer I chose to work with the youngest age group, the 5 and 6 year-olds, otherwise known as the Koalas. Though they are physically exhausting, I have learned that I love working with this age group. One minute you are raising your voice telling everyone to quiet down because they are getting out of hand and five minutes later you are overwhelmed by hugs, giggles, and grins because they seem to have forgotten that they were in trouble.

    The camp was created to meet a need in the community: to feed children during the summer months who receive free or reduced lunches during the school year. However, SML Good Neighbors is much more than a feeding program. We also reinforce concepts such as respecting nature, living peacefully with others at home and around the world, along with healthy living practices. Although the interns know that the kids are from low income families, I was never aware of their home situations. This year a handful of Koalas who were, or had been, in foster care would sometimes, innocently and openly, make small comments about their past home life.

    The smallest, spunkiest, most opinionated and liveliest little girl in camp truly touched my heart this summer. Sometimes she can hug me so hard I have to ask her to let go because she is hurting Miss Angela. You can hear her in the hallways singing, “I Wanna Be a Billionaire,” and having competitions with the other 6-year old campers on who can sing better. In the first week of the Franklin County camp, this little girl’s grandmother, who is now her guardian, asked to speak with Nalina and me about her granddaughter. She wanted to make us aware of the past abuse this child had endured to help explain any flinching, outbursts, or emotional distress she may have while at camp. I was completely taken aback. My stomach, heart, and throat clench- up just thinking that someone is evil enough to hurt a child. And here is a little girl who has endured more in her short life than I hope to experience as long as I live. During the four-week camp I watched as this resilient little ball of personality warmed up to each and every intern, even Jake, who she is especially wary of. Every camp day ends at 3 p.m., but this Koala refuses to leave until the interns reassure her that we will see her tomorrow bright and early at 8 a.m.

    One afternoon, when once again her grandmother was patiently waiting for the girl to finish a game with one of the interns so that they could go home, she turned to me and said, “She’s going to remember each and every one of you. Even after the camp is over, she’ll keep talking about you.” The grandmother later wrote in an evaluation of the camp something along the lines of, “SML Good Neighbors has shown my granddaughter that people can care for others.”

    As interns who double as camp counselors, we strive to be positive role models for these children, hoping that one day they may want to help children like themselves to grow and become confident, healthy, and successful adults. Through the Bonner Leaders Program, I’ve learned that escaping the circle of poverty is a difficult task. While non-profits work to help end this cycle, we can never be certain whether our actions are actually helping to shape these children’s futures for the better. However, if my little Koala is any testament to the work of the SML Good Neighbors volunteers, board members, and interns, perhaps we have opened their hearts to show that people do care. I know that I care very deeply for these beautiful children and the potential they hold for sculpting their own future with the Good Neighbors values. Just today I asked a 10-year old “Kangaroo” what she wants to be when she grows up. She responded, “I want to be a teacher just like you.” Then a couple little ones who overheard piped up and said, “Me too, me too.”

from Angela Massino—SML Good Neighbors intern in 2009, 2010 and 2011

             

       

First published in The Bonner Beat, issue 2, Lynchburg College, 2010

"Let Your Life Speak"

Quakers (Religious Society of Friends) have counseled their members since the middle of the 17^th century to – Let Your Life Speak. They were aware then, as we are now, that words without actions are empty. It is far better to say little or nothing and let your actions – the way you live with and serve others – speak the authentic truth about your life. It strikes me that this title – Let Your Life Speak –   aptly describes the character and lives of our Good Neighbors interns.

This current posting is the first in a short series about the SML Good Neighbors Internship program and the young adults who have worked with the Good Neighbors children over the past four summers. I will share my thoughts and experiences about the program and these remarkable people. And, in future posts I will include the reflections of some of the interns about their life and work with the children; we will hear them in their own voice. You can also hear some of our interns speak about the internship program by going to our website: www.smlgoodneighbors.org and clicking on the videos.

             

When the cofounders of SML Good Neighbors began meeting over five years ago one of the core objectives that emerged was: to provide a vocational exploration experience for college students. We had a sense that the experience of working with economically disadvantaged young children in our community for eight weeks of the summer would be a transforming experience for many of these interns. I think you will see through this series of posts that the cofounders were correct – this work has a powerful impact on our interns.

The Life of the SML Good Neighbors Interns

Our interns arrive a week before the summer enrichment camps begin for a busy week of in-service training and preparation for the opening of the first camp; this is the easy part. Since interns come from many different colleges and have many different academic backgrounds, this is an important time for them to begin forming relationships within their group. In 2011, our eight interns came from five different colleges. Developing a healthy, loving community among the interns is essential to the success of the program. They are the primary facilitators of the program. And, they live and work together 24/7 during the entire summer; this is a big challenge.

             

When camp starts, the interns’ routines change quickly. They arrive at the campsite (one of the elementary schools) by 7:45 every morning. The children begin arriving by 8 a.m. and their day doesn’t slow down until the children leave at 3 p.m. But, their work day isn’t over. Classrooms must be cleaned, trash carried out, bathrooms checked, materials prepared for the next day and a group discussion held to discuss their day, problems encountered, things that need to be changed, strategies to deal with behavior problems or problems with reading or writing, and planning for the next day. If all goes well, they leave the school about 4:30. Then it is home – they live together in a home provided by Good Neighbors – to eat dinner, talk about and prepare for the next morning, relax awhile and go to bed. They are exhausted by the end of the evening and are typically in bed by nine or nine-thirty. And it starts all over the next morning. In spite of these physical, intellectual and emotional demands, the typical comment from one of the interns will be something like – “this is the hardest job I have ever loved.” I have had the privilege of working with these women and men over the past four summers and I can say without reservation – their lives do speak.

Where Do We Find These Exceptional Interns? 

 The Good Neighbors internship has become very competitive. We have more qualified applicants than we can accept. And, we are very intentional about the applicants we do accept. We specifically recruit students from colleges with a Bonner Scholars or Bonner Leaders program. These are programs funded by the Bonner Foundation - http://www.bonner.org/. If you open this link and read their mission statement it will be clear why we recruit these students. They are already involved in, and committed to, community service work and their goals are very consistent with those of Good Neighbors. In 2011, six of the eight interns were from these programs. The colleges represented were: the University of Richmond, Guilford College, Lynchburg College, and Ferrum College. Additionally, we work with the honors program and the YMCA program at Virginia Tech. Every summer, including 2011, we have had two interns from Virginia Tech.

We have also been fortunate to have experienced interns return to our program. In 2011 we had three returning interns and, already, we have four veteran interns planning to return in 2012. This fact alone affirms the strength of the bonds formed between interns and the children and the power these experiences of self-giving can have on our lives.

In the next blog post, personal reflections of our interns will be shared. I think you will understand why we believe this work with the children is so important, and why I have so much respect and affection for these women and men who give themselves so completely to the Good Neighbors children.

           

Which One of Your Children Do You Love the Most?

            Yesterday I was interviewed about the Good Neighbors programs. There were questions about how we got started, who was involved, how the various components of the program were determined and developed, and our next challenges. At the end of the interview I was asked – What part of the Good Neighbors program are you most proud of? As people close to me know, I am immensely proud of the internship program. One of our stated objectives from the beginning discussions in 2006 was to provide a vocational exploration experience for college interns. We sensed that working with young children in this environment could be a life-changing event for the college interns.

            I had been working on several items related to the interns when I got the call to talk about the Good Neighbors history. Since the interns were on my mind, my reply to the question was – I think that if I could only pick one thing, it would be the internship program.

            Shortly after the interview was completed I began to reflect on my answer and realized I couldn’t leave that as my complete answer. So I called back and said – I’ve been thinking about your question and need to say more. I can’t pick a single piece of the program and say… that’s the part I’m most proud of. That’s like asking me which one of my children I love most! After thinking about it, I have to include the Peace Education Enrichments we have built in to the curriculum. This came as no surprise to my questioner since she knows how committed I am to teaching and modeling living peaceably in our world to the children.

            But that still doesn’t say enough. There are many parts of the Good Neighbors Enrichment program that need to be talked about – bragged about, and celebrated! And here are just a few:

·         The Reading Buddy program – almost 90% of the Good Neighbors kids either retain or improve their reading levels over the summer. Less than 50% of the children (nationally) who have no summer enrichments retain their reading levels over the summer.

·         Writer’s Workshop 

·         Nature Education

·         Peace Education

·         Cultural Diversity/Global Education enrichments

·         The Theatre program with our Roanoke Children’s Theatre partner

·         Healthy living activities – eating well & living an active life

·         Arts and crafts programs

·         The internship program

·         Growth from 65 kids in 2008 to 160 in 2011

·         Committed partnerships with churches, schools and community organizations

·         Active participation by nearly 200 volunteers

The list could go on and on. And this is just about our Summer Day Camp program. Did you know? We also provide sack lunches and weekend backpacks for children attending summer school at three schools in Bedford County and three in Franklin County. And, we have a small in-school mentoring program at Moneta Elementary School and Dudley Elementary School.

So – asking me which part of the Good Neighbors program I am most proud of cannot be answered with a simple answer. It is like asking me which one of my children I love most - you better sit down; this may take a while!

Busboys and Poets - More than a place to eat...

Sarah and I recently had dinner at Busboys and Poets in Shirlington, Virginia. Our daughter and daughter-in-law introduced us to this unique place. In addition to great food and a unique atmosphere, you are exposed to the creative arts, peace advocacy and ideas about environmental sustainability. These themes come from the life and writings of Langston Hughes.

During dinner a slide show of quotes was projected on a large wall. One of the quotes caught my attention and captured what I sometimes feel when I am weary or discouraged:

There are times when I think I can’t go on. Then I look in to the face of a child and… I change my mind.